> The danger once you become fully financially independent is that neither you or companies are willing to compromise on your working terms and you retire by default.

Never share your situation and security. Your plan is sound otherwise, just say "I need more time for family" or whatever will trigger the response that gets you this outcome. As long as they need you, they'll accommodate.

https://www.amazon.com/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-De...

+1.

If you prefer more pop-culture taste, "Never Split the Difference" is kind of similar (even though philosophically different.) The story is all about FBI and kidnapping, so it's less boring while the points made are a bit shallower than "Crucial Conversations".

[1] https://www.amazon.com/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-De...

You might be interested in the book “Never Split The Difference” which has been recommended on HN frequently:

https://www.amazon.com/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-De...

You might also be interested in looking into nonviolent communication.

i just finished Never Split The Difference (https://www.amazon.com/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-De...) and they also tend use different pronouns (they do not use I as much, but use other pronouns more often)

Not sure if are "the best", but i liked ( audiobooks on my commute ) those:

https://www.amazon.com/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-De...

https://www.amazon.com/Effective-Negotiating-Strategies-Succ...

https://www.amazon.com/Pre-Suasion-Revolutionary-Way-Influen...

If you liked "Getting To Yes" you might also enjoy "Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It" https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0062407805/ that has a somehow different perspective on negotiation