- sleep on it
- identify your cognitive distortions when you're upset[1]
- assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don't (from Peterson's book[2])
- when working on a task write down all the milestones. Strike through when you're done with one
- in the middle of a bug switch to curiosity mode. Be genuinely curious why that bug is happening. Useful to avoid frustration
- if you have to wash dishes and not in the mood, just start with the first dish
- ask myself "What is the first thing can I do to avoid resentment?" in situations when resentment might occur
- sleep 8h
- regular exercise
[1] https://www.zuzuconcept.ro/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/HO15_T...
[2] https://www.amazon.com/12-Rules-Life-Antidote-Chaos/dp/03458...
12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos by Jordan B. Peterson
https://www.amazon.com/12-Rules-Life-Antidote-Chaos/dp/03458...
https://www.amazon.com/12-Rules-Life-Antidote-Chaos/dp/03458...
Here's a quick video (12 min video):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ApC0faRYabI
I suspect his lectures, books, etc are likely more in depth. I personally haven't read it much, but am aware of the rules.
At the end of the day, you have to just get moving. One thing I've found helpful is selecting objectives, often physical ones. Go to the gym every day, take a 1-hour walk. Brush your teeth, shower, eat breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Make a list and hold yourself to account, get a star chart and show progress. From there you can build.
Life needs objectives, you have to decide who and what you want to be, but start at some basics -- "I want to bench 180lbs" or "I want to complete my list for a full week".
It may sound strange, but when people are in that state, the hardest thing in the world is getting started. If you miss a day, fine. Don't make an excuse you have to keep going. Eventually, you form habits and the more you form, the more robust and resilient you are. If you miss a couple activities for a day or two it wont be the end of the world. Just keep your life moving and pick them back up.
After you can do that and you accomplish a few objectives, I think you can / should start thinking of longer goals, 2 -3 years out and just keep building. At the end of the day, this isn't a journey for anyone but yourself.