not a dad, or parent - but i randomly read "Achtung Baby: An American Mom on the German Art of Raising Self-Reliant Children" - by Sarah Zaske on a whim:

https://www.amazon.com/Achtung-Baby-American-Self-Reliant-Ch...

thought it was a really great book on something i'm completely oblivious to.

I recommend this book. https://www.amazon.com/Achtung-Baby-American-Self-Reliant-Ch...

Mostly I’m trying to model good behavior. My kid mimics me a lot better than he can follow my directions. He’s going to be his own person, and nothing I can do will change that, I’m just a caretaker to help him grow into himself.