Best Video Blog on how to live a good live, and I think is your real question, is Philosphers Notes from Brian Johnson: https://www.youtube.com/user/PhilosophersNotes

And the simple and best Book to Live with your special Guys in the Company is "Assertivenes at Work" from Kate Back: https://www.amazon.com/Assertiveness-Work-Professional-Busin...

At the End I take a buddhism trail and got rid of this Feelings blowing my emotions to this bad shapes you discribes. Begin with simple Meditation by Youtube lessons.

Live long and prosper Oerb