If you are truly unable to naturally connect in terms of good first impressions you might want to approach this like an optimization problem. I recommend Nolan's book on elicitation (http://www.amazon.com/Confidential-Business-Secrets-Getting-...) as a good start, only read segments 1&2 unless you want to start a competitive intelligence firm. That said, as someone who used to have some degree of confidence issues with new contacts, go apply to 50 jobs you don't give a shit about in the slightest, that you wouldn't accept whether or not you got the job. If you live in a city with lots of consulates/embassies, try BSing your way into a party.
When it comes down to it the ability to bullshit won't necessarily help you secure a job, but it will remove a lot of the barriers previous to where that decision is made and get you closer to that meeting/phonecall/interview where that decision might be made. Bottom line, get used to making first impressions. I bet your first website sucked (probably far less than my first site sucked but it still probably sucked), but the way to get better at most things is to do it more.
When it comes down to it the ability to bullshit won't necessarily help you secure a job, but it will remove a lot of the barriers previous to where that decision is made and get you closer to that meeting/phonecall/interview where that decision might be made. Bottom line, get used to making first impressions. I bet your first website sucked (probably far less than my first site sucked but it still probably sucked), but the way to get better at most things is to do it more.