HN is one of the few large online communities I know that still remains really civil, however I don’t ever feel like I “know” anyone on here, which I think is about the specifics of the UI - you don’t follow people, you follow ideas.
All of this reminds of of Derek Powazec’s book which is easily the best one I’ve read on fostering and growing online communities: https://www.amazon.com/Design-Community-Derek-Powazek/dp/073...
What particularly resonated in the article was where he mentions how a group needs an individual or a few individuals to push it along, as a sort of binding, driving element. This is absolutely my experience, both in running tech meet-ups and barcamps but also in online groups too.
More Tips:
- Design for Community (by Derek Powazek) is one of the best books I've read on the subj ect: http://www.amazon.com/Design-Community-Derek-Powazek/dp/0735...
- Try to follow and read the blogs/see the shows of key celebrity entrepreneurs that have cracked this code: Caterina Fake, Kevin Rose, Gary Vaynerchuck, Jason Calacanis, etc.
- Alternatively you can make friend with the media and (if the quality or novelty of your product warrants it) get cover by technology blogs (yes even if you only have a beta).
From a software pov I'm less convinced. Seems to me that "just make a Telegram / WhatsApp / whatever" group is where most online communities seem to be coalescing...?