Start with some school textbooks for grades 8-12 i.e. Secondary Education. This is more for a refresher course in the absolute basics.
The above can be supplemented with the following books to develop intuition;
1) Who is Fourier - https://www.amazon.com/Who-Fourier-Mathematical-Adventure-2n...
2) Functions and Graphs - https://www.amazon.com/Functions-Graphs-Dover-Books-Mathemat...
After this is when you enter undergraduate studies and you have to fight the dragon of "Modern Maths" which is more abstract and conceptual. In addition to standard textbooks; i suggest the following;
1) Concepts of Modern Mathematics - https://www.amazon.com/Concepts-Modern-Mathematics-Dover-Boo...
2) Mathematics: Its Content, Methods and Meaning - https://www.amazon.com/Concepts-Modern-Mathematics-Dover-Boo...
3) Mathematical Techniques (i am linking this so you can see the reviews but get the latest edition) - https://www.amazon.com/Mathematical-Techniques-Dominic-Jorda...
Finally, if you would like to learn about all the new-fangled mathematics your best bets are;
a) The Princeton Companion to Mathematics - https://www.amazon.com/Princeton-Companion-Mathematics-Timot...
b) The Princeton Companion to Applied Mathematics - https://www.amazon.com/Princeton-Companion-Applied-Mathemati...
One important piece of advice that i have is to become comfortable with the Symbols, Notation and Formalism used in Mathematics. Most students are intimidated by the Formalism (which is nothing more than a precise form of shorthand to express abstract concepts) and give up on studying Mathematics altogether. This is a shame since it is merely the Form and not the Function of Mathematics.
For homeschooling, which for other parents on Hacker News could take the form of "afterschooling," I much prefer Miquon Math
http://www.keycurriculum.com/products/supplementals/miquon-m...
for starting out my children, and then the Singapore Primary Mathematics materials (which now have an edition aligned to United States curriculums standards)
http://www.singaporemath.com/Primary_Mathematics_Stds_Ed_s/1...
followed up by the Gelfand textbooks
http://www.amazon.com/Algebra-Israel-M-Gelfand/dp/0817636773
http://www.amazon.com/Method-Coordinates-Dover-Books-Mathema...
http://www.amazon.com/Functions-Graphs-Dover-Books-Mathemati...
http://www.amazon.com/Trigonometry-I-M-Gelfand/dp/0817639144...
appropriately supplemented by ALEKS
and EPGY
http://epgy.stanford.edu/district/info.html
ALEKS
is a commerical online site (in which I have no economic interest) delivering personalized instruction in mathematics through precalculus mathematics. The ALEKS website includes links to research publications on which ALEKS is based.
I also recommend the Art of Problem Solving (AoPS)
http://www.artofproblemsolving.com/
(where I first took on the screenname that I also use here on HN) for more online mathematics instruction resources, and I also share specific links to specialized sites on particular topics with clients and with my children. I should note for onlookers that the articles on mathematics learning on the AoPS website
http://www.artofproblemsolving.com/Resources/articles.php?
are very good indeed, especially "The Calculus Trap."
My children make quite a bit of voluntary use of Khan Academy (both watching videos and working online exercises) and I am gratified that my previous suggestions to the Khan Academy developers here on HN
http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=2760663
have been followed up as Khan Academy developers have communicated with me by email about new problem formats available in their online exercises, which are becoming increasingly challenging.
Besides that, I fill my house with books about mathematics, and circulate other books about mathematics frequently from various local libraries.
I also recommend that all my students use the American Mathematics Competition
materials and other mathematical contest materials as a reality check on how well they are learning mathematics.
In general, I think mathematics is much too important a subject to be single-sourced from any source. Especially, mathematics is much too important to be left to the United States public school system in its current condition. I was rereading The Teaching Gap: Best Ideas from the World's Teachers for Improving Education in the Classroom (1999) last month. It reminded me of facts I had already learned from other sources, including living overseas for two three-year stays in east Asia.
"Readers who are parents will know that there are differences among American teachers; they might even have fought to move their child from one teacher's class into another teacher's class. Our point is that these differences, which appear so large within our culture, are dwarfed by the gap in general methods of teaching that exist across cultures. We are not talking about gaps in teachers' competence but about a gap in teaching methods." p. x
"When we watched a lesson from another country, we suddenly saw something different. Now we were struck by the similarity among the U.S. lessons and by how different they were from the other country's lesson. When we watched a Japanese lesson, for example, we noticed that the teacher presents a problem to the students without first demonstrating how to solve the problem. We realized that U.S. teachers almost never do this, and now we saw that a feature we hardly noticed before is perhaps one of the most important features of U.S. lessons--that the teacher almost always demonstrates a procedure for solving problems before assigning them to students. This is the value of cross-cultural comparisons. They allow us to detect the underlying commonalities that define particular systems of teaching, commonalities that otherwise hide in the background." p. 77
Plenty of authors, including some who should be better known and mentioned more often by HN participants, have had plenty of thoughtful things to say about ways in which United States mathematical education could improve.
In February 2012, Annie Keeghan wrote a blog post, "Afraid of Your Child's Math Textbook? You Should Be,"
http://open.salon.com/blog/annie_keeghan/2012/02/17/afraid_o....
in which she described the current process publishers follow in the United States to produce new mathematics textbook. Low bids for writing, rushed deadlines, and no one with a strong mathematical background reviewing the books results in school textbooks that are not useful for learning mathematics. Moreover, although all new textbook series in the United States are likely to claim that they "expose" students to the Common Core standards, they are not usually designed carefully to develop mathematical understanding according to any set of standards.
The Epsilon Camp website
http://www.epsiloncamp.org/FAQ.php
also has some useful FAQ files about studying mathematics at a young age.
http://www.math.rutgers.edu/~zeilberg/Opinion62.html
Gelfand was a mathematician who also cared deeply about mathematics pedagogy, and his textbooks are delightful.
http://www.amazon.com/Algebra-Israel-M-Gelfand/dp/0817636773
http://www.amazon.com/Functions-Graphs-Dover-Books-Mathemati...
http://www.amazon.com/Method-Coordinates-I-M-Gelfand/dp/0817...
http://www.amazon.com/Trigonometry-I-M-Gelfand/dp/0817639144...
Gelfand poses delightful problems that give students a workout in arithmetic (and CAN'T be done with a calculator) and that build conceptual understanding and interest in higher mathematics.
For homeschooling, I much prefer Miquon Math
http://www.keypress.com/x6252.xml
for starting out my children, and then the Singapore Primary Mathematics materials (which now have an edition aligned to United States curriculums standards)
http://www.singaporemath.com/Primary_Mathematics_Stds_Ed_s/1...
followed up by the Gelfand textbooks
http://www.amazon.com/Algebra-Israel-M-Gelfand/dp/0817636773
http://www.amazon.com/Method-Coordinates-I-M-Gelfand/dp/0817...
http://www.amazon.com/Functions-Graphs-Dover-Books-Mathemati...
http://www.amazon.com/Trigonometry-I-M-Gelfand/dp/0817639144...
appropriately supplemented by ALEKS
and EPGY
Interpreting that as a request to name the textbooks I find useful, I'll do that here.
Elementary mathematics:
Primary Mathematics
http://www.singaporemath.com/Primary_Math_s/21.htm
and
Miquon Math
http://www.keypress.com/x6252.xml
Secondary mathematics:
The Gelfand Correspondence Program series
http://www.amazon.com/Algebra-I-M-Gelfand/dp/0817636773
http://www.amazon.com/Functions-Graphs-Dover-Books-Mathemati...
http://www.amazon.com/Method-Coordinates-I-M-Gelfand/dp/0817...
http://www.amazon.com/Trigonometry-I-M-Gelfand/dp/0817639144...
http://www.amazon.com/Sequences-Combinations-Limits-Library-...
and
Basic Mathematics by Serge Lang
http://www.amazon.com/Basic-Mathematics-Serge-Lang/dp/038796...
and
The Art of Problem Solving expanded series
http://www.artofproblemsolving.com/Books/AoPS_B_Texts_FAQ.ph...
When a student has those materials well in hand, it is time to work on AMC and Olympiad style problem solving,
http://www.artofproblemsolving.com/Books/AoPS_B_CP_AMC.php
http://www.artofproblemsolving.com/Books/AoPS_B_CP_Olympiad....
and also the best calculus textbooks, such as those by Spivak or Apostol.
http://www.amazon.com/Calculus-Michael-Spivak/dp/0914098918/
http://www.amazon.com/Calculus-Vol-One-Variable-Introduction...
http://www.amazon.com/Calculus-Vol-Multi-Variable-Algebra-Ap...
Elementary reading:
By far the best initial reading text is
Let's Read: A Linguistic Approach
http://www.amazon.com/Lets-Linguistic-Approach-Leonard-Bloom...
but there are many other good reading series, including
Primary Phonics
http://www.epsbooks.com/dynamic/catalog/series.asp?seriesonl...
and
Teach Your Child to Read in Ten Minutes a Day
(I devote more time than that to reading instruction, typically, because I use multiple materials)
http://www.amazon.com/Teach-Your-Child-Read-Minutes/dp/14120...
and quite a few others. There is more junk than good stuff among elementary reading materials, alas.
https://www.amazon.com/Functions-Graphs-Dover-Books-Mathemat...
https://www.amazon.com/Sequences-Combinations-Limits-Dover-M...
https://www.amazon.com/Geometry-Israel-M-Gelfand/dp/10716029...
https://www.amazon.com/Algebra-Israel-M-Gelfand/dp/081763677...
https://www.amazon.com/Trigonometry-I-M-Gelfand/dp/081763914...
https://www.amazon.com/Method-Coordinates-Dover-Books-Mathem...
the books by sanjoy mahajan are also a treat and teach real-world applications of mathematical and scientific thinking.
https://www.amazon.com/Street-Fighting-Mathematics-Educated-...
https://www.amazon.com/Art-Insight-Science-Engineering-Compl...