Personally, this stems from worrying too much about not just making a good choice, but the "perfect" choice. It stems from perfectionism. I truly see many "techie's" and HNers seem to relate to the issues I often feel afflicted with: Perfectionism and Procrastination. My gut says its because many of us grew up being high achievers and quick to pick things up but now we fear being "wrong" or not being perfect. Ugh.
Anyways,, I recently came across How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism by Steven Guise[1] It's been very helpful in making aware of the challenge I have and how to work on changing how I think about things so that I stop worrying about results and focus more on process (and progress, the results will eventually come).
I've realized I was/am a perfectionist but I didn't really realize how destructive it is. It leads to paralysis analysis, extreme fear of failure and thus "freezing" and procrastination. I've been contemplating doing a write up on these issues and throwing another one in the mix [pornography] but I'm still letting my perfectionism hold me back (I want the write up to be "perfect").
Anyways,, I recently came across How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism by Steven Guise[1] It's been very helpful in making aware of the challenge I have and how to work on changing how I think about things so that I stop worrying about results and focus more on process (and progress, the results will eventually come).
I've realized I was/am a perfectionist but I didn't really realize how destructive it is. It leads to paralysis analysis, extreme fear of failure and thus "freezing" and procrastination. I've been contemplating doing a write up on these issues and throwing another one in the mix [pornography] but I'm still letting my perfectionism hold me back (I want the write up to be "perfect").
Anyone else relate?
[1] http://amzn.to/2dZDaW4