BTW, another book I can't recommend enough in the same vein: https://www.amazon.com/How-Raise-Adult-Overparenting-Prepare...

I forget if it was this book or somewhere else I heard it, but they had a pretty pithy comment that's stuck with me since - something along the lines of "The objective of parenting isn't to raise good kids, your job as a parent is to raise good adults".

I think this is a great idea, but for different reasons than you’d think.

If you read around, there is an epidemic of college freshman whose parents have the ambition, and will do whatever to force their kid into the college and even the major they choose…(sample: https://www.amazon.com/How-Raise-Adult-Overparenting-Prepare..., these are students entering Stanford whose can’t make their own decisions).

Who ended up stuck with the loans for these degrees that the kids may not want or have the independence to take advantage of? Not the parents… the students are the ones suffering for their parents’ ambition.

Obviously not the whole picture, and maybe it’s not completely right yet, but I think this particular direction will help some of those students.