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jnazario · 2012-12-29 · Original thread
because so much of our power to influence things comes from our ability to interact with people:

"how to read a person like a book"

and the classic dale carnegie "how to win friends and influence people"

His recommendations felt like a nice summary[1] of Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People[2], mentioned by pg on Why Smart People Have Bad Ideas[3]




obtino · 2011-04-19 · Original thread
If there's one book you read in getting over this, I recommend this:

How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

It's definitely worked for me in helping tackle my problems problems with social interactions.

Self-obsessed douchebag != extrovert

Socially unskilled != introvert

This may help:

jpwagner · 2010-12-17 · Original thread
The author of those templates should read this...

imp · 2010-04-30 · Original thread
I would be wary of self improvement programs that charge money. I'm not sure what exactly you've looked into, but there's a lot of information out there for free or cheap.

I've spent a decent amount of time reading self-improvement books/blogs, and for me the stuff that made the most impact were things that were tailored to the problems I was having at the time.

Here's an overview of what I've read over the years that have helped me to some extent:

I Can Do Anything if I Only Knew What it Was:

Paul Graham's Essays:

How to Win Friends and Influence People:

Four Hour Work Week:

Randy Pausch, Time Management:


Steve Pavlina:

7 Habits of Highly Effective People (reading this now):

So I would say "it depends" on what you want out of life and where you are now. Self improvement is a life-long task and you will need advice that changes as you progress.

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