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maverickJ · 2020-09-27 · Original thread
1. The power of asking the right questions. For example, if you find yourself doing learning a bunch of difficult things at the same time, the following questions can help you/ a.How many subjects am I currently learning intensely? b.Do these subjects have any relation to each other? c.Why am I currently learning the subjects? d.Have I truly made progress in any of the subjects?

To find out more about questions, this article https://leveragethoughts.substack.com/p/do-not-engage-the-mi... is fantastic.

2. The power of writing. Writing puts thoughts to paper. When you write, the structure of your thoughts becomes more visible. It can tell you if you think properly or not. By writing, your thoughts process becomes more refined. Writing is a feedback loop to your thoughts.

3. How to build relationships. We humans are social creatures. We are quite inter dependent. To navigate through life, we will need to co-operation of others. The book https://amzn.to/3mYvmqo how to win friends and influence others is incredibly good.

4. How to show our work. You can create the best invention in computer science but if it does the right audience do not know about it, the invention languishes in obscurity. This article https://leveragethoughts.substack.com/p/cracking-the-who-you... is one of the best at explaining it.

5. Financial literacy. This is incredibly important. A lot of us go through life without understanding how the financial system works. This leads to us making sub optimal financial choices. I find the book The Richest Man in Babylon https://amzn.to/3mVczMI great at introducing a financial mindset. Financial literacy is also important;Especially for technical people. The life of Nikola Tesla is an example of this https://leveragethoughts.substack.com/p/dont-hinge-your-care...

chrisco255 · 2019-03-10 · Original thread
Study persuasion and communication.

* Robert Cialdini's "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion * Jeff Cannon's "Leadership Lessons of the Navy Seals" * Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People"

Attend Public Speaking workshops. If there's a ToastMasters club in your area, join it. Improv can be another great way to learn how to get "less rigid" and more open with your communication style.

https://www.amazon.com/Influence-Psychology-Persuasion-Rober...

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0053ALPPQ/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?...

https://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0...

avinassh · 2017-12-25 · Original thread
How about `How to Win Friends and Influence People` by Dale Carnegie?

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0091906350

throwa · 2012-11-14 · Original thread
I believe in all the causes you have mentioned but please stop polluting this feed.

You get people to contribute to good causes by being able to influence them and not nag or harass or bully them.

Please get this book and read them because not all talk = influence:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Influence-Psychology-Persuasion-Robe...

http://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/...

I believe in what you profess but you are going about it the wrong way and even me who believe in your course find you annoying.

Spearchucker · 2012-10-24 · Original thread
She's providing a very smoothed-over introduction to neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) [1]. The part about talking and listening is a take on Dale Carnegie's book, How to Win Friends and Influence People[2].

I'm no fan of NLP - it was intended as a personal development aid to deal with phobias and disorders, so was intended to be internally-focused. However, in my experience, many use it as a manipulative tool (externally-focused), which I dislike intensely. Makes me feel I'm being played, so recognising that is the value I derive from understanding it.

Dale Carnegie's book, however, is (my opinion) the best and most useful personal development book I've ever read.

[1] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuro-linguistic_programming

[2] http://www.amazon.co/dp/0749307846

Dodgy title but good advice: How to win friends and influence people. http://amzn.to/aEYc04

For conferences: try to contact people that are going beforehand and talk about stuff over email. It's easier to follow up in person than to start from scratch in person.

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