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maroonblazer · 2023-02-14 · Original thread
Likely not the book you're thinking of, but related and one I found useful:

"I Don't Know What I Want, But I Know It's Not This"

https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Know-What-Step-Step/dp/014312851...

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