Odds are your last sentence was a figure of speech, but I will go ahead and post this as a reference: "Intimate connections" by David Burns is a well regarded book on the somewhat related subject of building relationships.

http://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Connections-David-D-Burns/dp/...

Second the Burns book recommendation.

Burns wrote a book in the 80s about how to meet people. It was the best book I ever read on how to meet girls. No gimmicks, just advice that works.

http://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Connections-David-D-Burns/dp/...