If you're familiar with CBT, MBCT may help with the triggers by giving space when they happen [ https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/types/mindfu... ] I was lucky that a marriage counsellor was a clinical psychologist who had her own history too. I already knew the root cause but had no way to recognise triggers as they happened. Both some exploration in a safe environment and mbct practice gave me a 'thread back out' when overwhelmed. With time, I've come to be able to analyse the link and 'touch' the trigger's cause to reformulate for myself. There's a book for clinicians, I found the 1st edition useful, not sure what's changed in the update [ https://www.amazon.com/Mindfulness-Based-Cognitive-Therapy-D... ] My daughter came to follow-up sessions, at 10 she would comment positively - that too helped. Best luck with your journey.