I just read this book a few months ago, It was fantastic. After No More Mr. Nice Guy I highly recommend Models http://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty/d... and How to win friends and influence people is a great self help book too http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/06...

I've read these three books (Nice Guy then Friends and then Models) over the past few months and they have really taught me how to build up my confidence.

Mark Manson has written a lot of really valuable advice, including IMO the only dating book you should ever read [1]. He rejects the pickup culture in favor of a more intimate, human approach towards building emotional connections and improving oneself. He's the only mainstream dating coach pushing Dale Carnegie's work [2]. Mark's also big on the anti-pornography, anti-masturbation trend that's gaining mainstream attention [3]. I highly recommend reading his stuff for anybody who's looking to improve themselves, both in dating and in general.

[1] http://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty/d...

[2] http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/06...

[3] http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap

Edit: it looks like this was on the front page, but the HN is only for programming topics crowd seems to have flagged it into oblivion