Found 15 comments on HN
jdbernard · 2017-05-18 · Original thread
Is it "The Power of Quiet" by Susan Cain? Very good book that touches on this, mentioning HBR by name if memory serves.

https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking-...

gerbilly · 2017-04-13 · Original thread
One definition I've heard is that introverts become fatigued when they have too much social interaction.

Extraverts on the other hand get energized by social interaction.

(Social interaction requires a lot of processing.)

Why ? It may be related to an organism's baseline of arousal.

The idea is that extraverts may have a lower baseline arousal rate, that they enjoy raising by interacting socially.

Introverts have a high baseline level of arousal, which gets raised too far by too much social interaction.

It is thought that extraverts are the majority making up 85% of the population, and introverts 15%.

This would explain why open office plans are the norm.

Ironically introverts often self select for work that requires deep focus, and end up having to do it in open plan offices designed by extraverts who see nothing wrong with that.

This is a good book on the topic: https://www.amazon.ca/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/d...

blackm123 · 2017-02-21 · Original thread
I'm not the author of the original comment, but I recall reading a similar argument in the book:

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain

https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/...

gdubs · 2017-01-11 · Original thread
Anyone wanting to dig deeper into some of this might be interested in reading Susan Cain's "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking". [1]

It was a paradigm shifting book for me, made me understand some people in my life in profoundly new ways, and helped me discover stuff about my own personality. It's particularly interesting to think about introversion / extroversion in terms of managing energy levels.

1: https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/...

gdubs · 2017-01-11 · Original thread
Anyone wanting to dig deeper into some of this might be interested in reading Susan Cain's "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking". [1]

It was a paradigm shifting book for me, made me understand some people in my life in profoundly new ways, and helped me discover stuff about my own personality. It's particularly interesting to think about introversion / extroversion in terms of managing energy levels.

1: https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/...

jrs235 · 2015-09-28 · Original thread
As a self-professed introvert this true. Introvert is not the same as shy. Being in social situations (or even high sensory stimulating environments) consumes my energy. I really enjoy hanging out and going out with people but I need a break and some me/quiet time to recharge my energy levels. Also, if I want to be the "life of the party" I have no problem(s) being the center of attention.

An excellent book on Introverts is Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain

http://amzn.to/1Fxitw2 (affiliate link)

captn3m0 · 2015-09-05 · Original thread
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking [0]. This is surprisingly full of citations and references.

Assassin's Quest by Robin Hobb [1]. Stock fantasy at its best.

Rendezvous with Rama by Arthur C Clarke [2]. Been stuck at halfway for too long, it gets boring in places.

[0]: http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/d...

[1]: http://www.amazon.com/Assassins-Quest-Farseer-Trilogy-Book/d...

[2]: http://www.amazon.com/Rendezvous-Rama-Arthur-C-Clarke-ebook/...

EleventhSun · 2015-02-01 · Original thread
This is an fairly ignorant post - it's well established that introversion has nothing to do with shyness [0] [1].

One common definition of extroversion vs introversion is that an introvert needs time alone to recharge, whereas an extrovert needs time around people to recharge.

I would suggest doing some reading on the topic to prevent undervaluing a large portion of the population. For example, see [2], or Susan Cain's "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" [3].

[0] http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/29/introvert-myths_n_3...

[1] http://psychcentral.com/library/shyness.htm

[2] http://www.bustle.com/articles/56526-7-things-all-introverts...

[3] http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/d...

user_235711 · 2014-02-13 · Original thread
Definitely second petewarden's suggestions 'exercise' and 'get a hobby'. You do not have to join a gym or anything. Exercise can be something as simple as going walking for an hour with your iPod (or equivalent). No matter what the particular exercise, the fact is that it will usually get you out of your own head for awhile.

Aside from those I would suggest maybe reading Party of One [1] and/or Quiet [2], as they bring to light very well the fact that mainstream society unfairly and illogically looks down upon those who prefer aloneness. Being surrounded by laughing groups of sociable people has a way of making anyone not involved feel like they are missing out on something or that there is something wrong with them, when this might not be the case at all.

Props for such an honest post; and I hope you feel better soon.

[1] http://www.amazon.com/Party-One-The-Loners-Manifesto/dp/1569...

[2] http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/d...

minikites · 2013-11-26 · Original thread
This is a great book on the subject: http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/d...

Introversion and extroversion have nothing to do with shyness or how outgoing you are. It has to do with where you derive energy and I disagree with the author of the linked article that introverts just need to practice social interaction. As the book points out, introversion and extroversion can be determined very early in life, she mentions a study where infants who were more reactive to stimulus turned out to be introverts and infants who were chill turned out to be extroverts:

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“The four-month-olds who thrashed their arms like punk rockers did so not because they were extroverts in the making, but because their little bodies reacted strongly—they were “high-reactive”—to new sights, sounds, and smells,” Cain writes. “The quiet infants were silent not because they were future introverts—just the opposite—but because they had nervous systems that were unmoved by novelty.” These “high-reactive” babies grow up to be children who need a lot of time to decompress after school, need time alone to be creative and explore. They are introverts, not anti-social, Cain explains. There is a big difference.

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greenyoda · 2013-08-13 · Original thread
This isn't directly related to your question about jobs, but Susan Cain (an introvert herself) has some interesting insights into how introverts fit in to a culture that's biased toward extroverts.

Here's her TED talk from 2012 (19 min.):

http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts....

If you like that, you might enjoy her book on introverts:

http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/d...

minikites · 2013-06-24 · Original thread
That's understandable. I read this book: http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/d... and I felt a lot less guilty after more thoroughly understanding myself and what introversion is (not necessarily the same as misanthropy or social anxiety)
mlwarren · 2013-06-12 · Original thread
Quiet: The Power of Introverts really opened my eyes to the fact that other people feel the way I do and that it's alright to be "introverted". I highly recommend it if you haven't read it and this type of subject matter is enjoyable for you.

(non-affil link) http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/d...

I completely agree with this. Extrovert vs Introvert has been a large subject of thought for me - not only as a developer with a desire to lead a startup and a passion for product management, but also as a 60/40 extrovert/introvert with a 100% introvert significant other.

I always recommend to anyone to read the book "Quiet" (http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/d...) to appreciate differences in personalities and learn how to communicate effectively with opposing personalities.

This post in particular puts me a little as ease, because I've largely felt that I'm one of the rare ones not in an extreme. Glad to know I'm not the only ambivert out there.

jrs235 · 2012-03-25 · Original thread
I pretty much agree with you and also believe it's not the ability to process more or less stimuli but rather how sensitive one is to stimuli.

http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/d... is an excellent book on the subject.

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