A great book to realize that the reasons people give for what they do are not the real reasons is Elephant in the Brain

https://www.amazon.com/Elephant-Brain-Hidden-Motives-Everyda...

A great book to realize that the reasons you give for what you do are not the real reasons is Strangers to Ourselves

https://www.amazon.com/Strangers-Ourselves-Discovering-Adapt...