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airstrike · 2020-07-09 · Original thread
Or as Mark Manson put it, people give so many fucks about petty things because they have nothing more important to give a fuck about.

airstrike · 2020-07-02 · Original thread
More people need to read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck

octosphere · 2018-12-24 · Original thread
+1 for the Mark Manson reference. Loved this post in particular:

What I love is how explains the various tradeoffs and opportunity costs of having one thing, but not the other.

His book the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck is a must-read too:

rk06 · 2018-11-04 · Original thread
Give this book a try: The subtle art of not giving a fuck[1].

It is about being happy and putting an end to negative thoughts.


rakoo · 2018-10-29 · Original thread
I've been reading "The subtle art of not giving a fuck" ( and there's one point I try to follow: if you don't have control over something, then you shouldn't let it emotionally affect you, aka "you shouldn't give a fuck". Otherwise your life will be emotionally driven by things outside of your command and you'll just become insane.

Example: you can prepare all you want for a job interview or a date, dress appropriately, rehearse all you need, this is all something you control. But ultimately you have no control over their final decision, so you shouldn't let it negatively affect you and be mad/sad/puzzled. Reach for rationality, understand why you failed and improve on this for the next time

glorithm · 2018-07-13 · Original thread
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, by Mark Manson

Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity, by Kim Scott

epicide · 2017-07-03 · Original thread
That quote is fantastic. Definitely gonna check out the whole book.

Another book that sounds similar is The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck ( I don't know exactly how it compares to The Gifts of Imperfection as I haven't read the latter. The former talks about how you aren't as special as you have been told and how that's not only perfectly okay, but really freeing.

You learn to forgive yourself once you get over yourself. Stop acting like you can be some perfect being and have a happy life if you just: earn lots of money, get that fancy car, get married, etc. They won't make you happy in and of themselves.

The same goes for your career, too. Some things are going to suck and that's okay. You can't fix everything and "you only have so many fucks to give". You have to constantly decide what to give a fuck about and stop giving a fuck about things you don't. That last part sounds redundant, but can be hard to actually do.

gbersac · 2017-06-04 · Original thread
I am a huge fan of mark manson and I highly recommand his book "the subtle art of not giving a fuck". Great advice on how to live a happy life :
qntmfred · 2017-02-04 · Original thread
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

ggregoire · 2016-12-05 · Original thread
The people who appreciate your projects and would love to thank you everyday for your amazing work are the silent majority.

See Font Awesome 5. When they announced the KickStarter on HN, a minority criticized the existing library (like how the lib is shitty) or their future plans (like how having a pro version is wrong). But at the end, they raised almost $1 million. That shows how the biggest part of the community is really thankful.

If FA5 can raise $1M, I can't even imagine how much could raise Babel, Webpack or Homebrew. You made our lives so much easier.


Also, can't recommend enough this book:

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life -

tcrews · 2016-11-20 · Original thread
I can relate to that and part of it is probably because we don't want to be left out, we don't want to miss the latest technology that will make us obsolete, etc.

1) Reading HN all the time creates a false sense that things are moving much faster than they really are.

2) I'd suggesting reading "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" and it'll remind you your time is finite

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