Try Google App Engine to get started so you don't have to worry about dealing with a server. Start here http://learnpythonthehardway.org/
Find a copy of http://oreilly.com/catalog/9780596801601#toc for understanding basic ideas with HTML, CSS, JS and Python/GAE.
In the meantime, start a blog and write about your stuggles and the things you learn. Initially it won't really be about coding - but the main thing is showing momentum to the outside world. (Trolls will hate just ignore). By getting your name out there, people will be more interested in helping you.
Start there. If you have questions, my email is emile (at)
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