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After reading the long quote about rules, I bought it on Amazon. It sounds awesome, thanks for the recommendation. Link below for anyone else.

rdouble · 2013-02-27 · Original thread
You've described "Whatever" by Michel Houellbecq. I recommend reading it, but it won't make you feel better about your situation.

If you feel this way there's not much you can do besides leave the industry. In my experience, some people get rich, the eccentric co-worker types plod along forever until they are laid off 300 pounds later, and everyone sort of "normal" disappears off the face of the earth.

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