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mturmon · 2011-02-16 · Original thread
One approximate reference is:

http://www.amazon.com/Why-Marriages-Succeed-Fail-Yours/dp/06...

Basically, the author did studies and interviews and found that some couples who fight frequently do still have a healthy marriage.

This goes against some common-sense notions, of course.

The important thing was that each thought the other one heard and understood their point of view. I can't recall if the feeling that progress was made to resolve the dispute mattered as well.

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